8 Things I've Learnt About Friendship

June 8, 2017
After the relaunch of my blog I sat down and brainstormed the longest list of blog post ideas I've ever made. I have pages upon pages of words, titles and ideas, most of which no longer make sense to me, but I wanted to get as many ideas out there as possible while I was motivated and inspired. Also, because I'm going to San Francisco in a week (!!!!) I wanted to get a few posts ready so that I don't abandon my blog before I've even started working on it again. I have the next two days off so I'm excited to get stuck in.

Other than the time I spend at work, I've been having a lot of 'me' time lately, not necessarily out of choice. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, it's actually pretty great because I've had a lot of time to reflect on some things. One thing I've been thinking a lot about is friendship.  Having a lot of my friends scattered over the country makes it really hard to see them and spending time alone really makes you miss your pals. Over the course of our lives we meet people, develop friendships and often move on, leaving behind said friendship. Today I'm reflecting on some of the things I've learnt about friendship over the years.

1. Quality over quantity. 

Too often people surround themselves with crowds of people they call their 'friends'. It's easy to feel lonely in a body of people. From a young age, my mother engraved in my mind that it's better to have one good friend than loads of people who are kind of like friends, but not really, and overtime I've come to find that this is spot on. It's much easier to maintain friendships with a select few who you actually want to invest time in, than pushing yourself into friendships you don't really give a sh*t about.

2. If your friends don't support you 100%, they aren't your friends.

This goes without saying, but sometimes we can look past unsupportive friends simply because they are our friends. Luckily, I have the most supportive friends ever. When I started blogging I was too afraid to tell anyone about it because I thought everyone would think I was weird but I slowly told some of my friends and now I regret not telling them sooner. I've also made some questionable decisions in the past (I'm looking at you for this one Laura) but my friends have been there every step of the way, cheering me on.

3. Opposites attract, but being 'opposites' doesn't last very long.

When I first met Laura it felt like we were two completely different people. At first it seemed like we had nothing in common but fast forward two years and we have basically morphed into the one person. This goes for a lot of my friends. It's all about getting to know the person and finding things in common with them. You may be completely different but if the friendship is worth it you will find some common ground.

4. Long distance friendships are just as hard as long distance relationships.

Currently, I'm lucky enough to have both long distance friendships and a long distance relationship so I'm pretty much missing everyone. Although LDRs are really, really hard, long distance friendships can be just as heartbreaking. We can sometimes forget to put the same amount of effort into our far away friends as we would with a long distance partner but it is so important to stay in contact with them too because at the end of the day your pals are forevz.

5. Making friends is NOT easy.

Making friends can be daunting. Putting yourself out there is scary but we are expected to do it without hesitation. I'll admit, I'm not the best at this because I'm comfortable with the amount of friends I do have (refer back to point #1), but I do know that it is terrifying and the fear of rejection is real. Making friends isn't a walk in the park. You have to build trust, let your walls down and allow yourself to be vulnerable and there is literally nothing in the world that makes me more nervous.

6. Losing friends is just a part of life.

It's a sad fact that most of the people who come into your life will inevitably leave. Too often a distance can form between people and sometimes there is no going back. People move on with their lives, they go different places and they do different things and friendships end but you just have to remind yourself that it's not you, it's life.

7. Find people who bring out the best in you. 

Look for someone who you are your complete embarrassing and unapologetic self around and hold on tight to them. You know the person you have so much fun with, but also can talk about real deep 'what's the meaning of life' kind of stuff with. Those people are your friends. The people who make you feel confident and the people who, when you are with them, you forget about your surroundings, are your friends. If you have someone like this in your life, you know what I'm talking about.

8. If it's meant to be, it will be.

Like I already mentioned, sometimes, after all the hard work, the texting, the plans, the fun and the secrets shared, friendships fall apart and you lose contact but for those of us who are lucky enough, sometimes a lost friendship will do a complete turn and land right back in your lap. Hannah and I were cute little friends forever ago and then we weren't (I moved, we went to different schools, all very sad stuff for two little girls) BUT, now, both TWENTY years old and we are literally BFFs again, after all those years. Sometimes you find a friendship that is so natural you wind up stuck with it for your whole life.

"I cannot even imagine where I would be today were it not for that handful of friends 

who have given me a heart full of joy. Let's face it, friends make life a lot more fun."

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So much love for reading this really soppy post.