September 11, 2017
Breakups are hard. I can talk about just about anything on my blog and in life in general (I've often been told I have no filter), but when it comes to matters of the heart, I tend to take a more 'ignore it 'til it goes away' kind of approach. This is pretty easy for me when I'm around other people and I tend to get over things quicker than most, but when I'm on my own I can't help but think of all the what ifs and should haves - Should I have made more of an effort? Did I give it enough of a chance - you get the gist. These thoughts are almost impossible to ignore and you'll know this if you've gone through a breakup. It's like your brain just doesn't shut off and you can't help but think of all the other outcomes, had you taken a different path.

The other night I came across this little story and it inspired me to write this post because I found it so helpful and I just had to share it.

Once Buddha was traveling with a few of his followers. While they were passing a lake, Buddha told one of his disciples, "I am thirsty. Do get me some water from the lake."

The disciple walked up to the lake. At that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake. As a result, the water became very muddy and turbid.

The disciple thought, "How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink?" So he came back and told Buddha, "The water in there is very muddy. I don't think it is fit to drink."

After about half an hour, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back to the lake. The disciple went back, and found that the water was still muddy. He returned and informed Buddha about the same.

After sometime, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back.
This time, the disciple found the mud had settled down, and the water was clean and clear. So he collected some water in a pot and brought it to Buddha.

Buddha looked at the water, and then he looked up at the disciple and said, "See what you did to make the water clean. You let it be, and the mud settled down on its own, and you have clear water."

I've honestly read this story a hundred times in the past few days because it makes so much sense. You can't expect your mind to settle without giving it time. There is nothing you can do to speed up the process, all you can do it just give it the time it needs to heal. 

You could drive yourself up the walls thinking about everything and wishing to feel better again but the only way you can truly move on is to take time, look after yourself and wait it out. My mother always reminds me 'Time heals all wounds' and that is something I always try to remember in times like these.